The Dutch Wine Box

I can’t think of anything but nights with you. I want them warm and silvery, when we can be together all our lives.

-Zelda Fitzgerald

What exactly is a Dutch Wine Box you ask? Well, I shall tell you. It is my VERY favorite wedding gift.

Almost a year ago, I married my very best friend, love of my life, and favorite person in the entire world. It was a very special ceremony conducted by one of our mutual very best friends. Seriously, if I could adopt a grown-ass adult into my family – it would be this guy.

Look at these handsome fellas!

This same amazing and wonderful friend that married us gave us a Dutch Wine Box as a wedding gift and explained the custom, which I am just in love with. His family is from Holland and apparently this is a very popular tradition.

The idea behind the Dutch Wine Box is that when two people get married, they are presented with a wooden wine box (containing a bottle of wine) by loved ones, friends, or family. Ours is handmade, and therefore, just that much more special to me. The newlyweds are instructed to seperate briefly and are each given a pen and paper. The idea is to each write a letter to the other – to be sealed in the wine box along with a bottle of wine. Hopefully the wine box is never opened and the letters remain unread.

My gorgeous wine box – it’s just missing some letters.

However, in the event that there are problems in the marriage – and by problems, I’m not referring to the fight over who gets to clean up the cat vomit on the rug again. I’m talking about the cant sleep, can’t eat, can’t stand to look at each other, don’t want to be married anymore type of fight – then the wine box is unsealed and the couple shares the wine, while reading the letters.

In doing so – the idea is that each are reminded of the love that brought them together in the first place. Passions are renewed and the relationship is saved.

Who wouldn’t want to have that type of insurance card in their back pocket, right?

Here’s the downside to the whole idea of the wine box…in a perfect world, YOU NEVER GET TO READ THE LETTER!!!! Agh – maddening.

Here’s the other thing:

We are quickly approaching our first wedding anniversary – and we still haven’t written these letters! Yes. We are slackers, and we acknowledge it.

So – here’s the idea I came up with. The first anniversary is a paper anniversary. You know what’s made of paper right? LOVE LETTERS! What a perfect solution!

So, you know what I’ll be working on for the next few days. No pressure right? It’s only your entire marriage that’s hanging in the balance 🙂